TALK IT THROUGH
Tell me about a recent moment that felt difficult. Together, we’ll look at what happened and what you’d like to change.
FOR YOU, IF YOU’RE STARTING SOMEWHERE NEW
TIRED OF TRYING
TO FIT IN?
You say yes when you want to say no. Replay what you said. Spend time with people, then go home feeling lonely.
Over three weeks, we’ll talk through what’s happening and practise small changes—so you can meet people and keep being yourself.
ROOMS→ENERGY→DECISIONS→YOUR NEXT CHAPTER
[ IS THIS YOU? ]
NEW PLACE.
SAME OLD WORRIES?
You want friends you can relax around. But meeting people can feel like hard work. Does any of this sound familiar?
01YOU SAY YES, THEN REGRET IT+
You go along with plans you don’t enjoy. You hide what you think because you don’t want to be left out.
02YOU REPLAY EVERY CONVERSATION+
“Did I say too much? Why haven’t they replied?” You keep checking your phone and wondering what you did wrong.
03YOU STAY BECAUSE YOU FEEL LONELY+
You leave feeling drained or ignored. But you keep going back because you’re afraid of having nobody.
04YOU DON’T KNOW WHERE TO MEET YOUR PEOPLE+
You’ve tried events, apps or going out. You meet people, but rarely feel comfortable enough to be yourself.
[ FIRST ROUND · FIVE PLACES ]
THREE WEEKS.
ONE STEP AT A TIME.
ONE PRIVATE CONVERSATION EACH WEEK.
We’ll work on situations from your life: meeting someone new, saying no, or deciding who you want to spend time with.
TRY SOMETHING SMALL
We’ll choose one step you can try: start a conversation, turn down a plan, or visit a place you actually enjoy.
SEE WHAT HELPED
We’ll talk about how it went, adjust what didn’t work, and make a plan for what to try next.
[ WHAT YOU LEAVE WITH ]
KNOW WHAT
TO TRY NEXT.
- A written summary of who and what leaves you feeling drained—or at ease.
- One small action to practise each week.
- Ways to say what you need and notice when a connection isn’t working for you.
- A simple plan for the next 30 days.
The three-week pilot is paid. Applying is free. I’ll explain the price and what’s included before you decide.
3 PRIVATE SESSIONSOnline, in Bali, or by arrangement.
APPLY FOR THE 3-WEEK PILOT ↗
[ ABOUT ME / WHY ME ]
I USED TO CHANGE
MYSELF TO FIT IN.
I left Madagascar for France at 17. New country. New people. I wanted to belong, so I followed others—even when it wasn’t right for me.
I ended up broke, missed opportunities and lost sight of what I wanted. Learning to choose who I spent time with changed a lot.
12 YEARSBuilding a life across France, Canada, Australia and Indonesia.
10+ YEARSHospitality, kitchens and social rooms built around people.
EVERYDAY CONVERSATIONSReal-world social practice and observation in cafés, gyms and gatherings across Bali.
“I know how easy it is to forget yourself when you’re trying to be accepted.”
[ HOW I GOT HERE ]
HOW I LEARNED
TO BE MYSELF.
Open a chapter if you want the longer version.
01 / AGE 17MADAGASCAR → FRANCELeaving home and not knowing where I fitted in+
In 2014, my mother sold most of her gold, my grandfather added €1,000, and I left Madagascar to study in France. I carried the pressure to change my family’s future—but no idea how to build my own.
- NEW COUNTRY
- FAMILY PRESSURE
- NO INNER COMPASS
02 / FRANCEBELONGING AT ANY COSTDoing what everyone else wanted+
I changed myself to fit the people around me. The wrong circles left me broke and cost me opportunities. I kept paying for belonging with my attention, judgment and future.
- WRONG PEOPLE
- LOST OPPORTUNITY
- LOST SELF
03 / AUSTRALIA → INDONESIACHOOSING DIFFERENTLYTime alone, movement and honest conversations+
I rebuilt through work, movement, solitude and better conversations. Then I brought the questions into real rooms—cafés, gyms, dinners and handwritten notes—to understand what helps people feel safe enough to be honest.
- MOVEMENT
- SELF-TRUST
- SOCIAL WELLNESS LAB
[ SOCIAL WELLNESS LAB ]
SMALL CONVERSATIONS.
REAL LIFE.
Do they do what they say? Can you say no around them? How do you feel after seeing them? These are the questions we work with.
[ EARLY COMMUNITY RESPONSE ]
WHAT PEOPLE
HAVE FELT.
These messages come from people in the community. They are not results from the three-week pilot.
REEL RESPONSE · NEVER MET IN PERSON“You let encounters happen without projecting an outcome. You ask the right questions and really get to know the person first. What a level of mastery.”
Unsolicited response to a reel on intention and conduct
CONNECTION“You helped me overcome my fear of new connections.”
PRESENCE“Your presence means so much. Simply being there changes something in me and others.”
[ CONNECTION CLARITY · FIT APPLICATION ]
YOU DO NOT NEED
TO KEEP CARRYING
THIS ALONE.
Tell me what’s been hard lately and what you’d like to change. I’ll read your answers and let you know whether I can help.
- Allow 7–10 minutes.
- No payment when you apply.
- If I’m not the right person to help, I’ll say so.
Your answers are stored in Typeform. I use them to understand what you need and contact you on WhatsApp about your application.
Educational and experiential social practice · not therapy or crisis support
[ QUICK ANSWERS ]
BEFORE
YOU APPLY.
Who is the founding pilot for?+
People starting somewhere new who find themselves overthinking conversations, saying yes to fit in, or feeling lonely around others.
What happens during the three weeks?+
We meet privately once a week. You bring a situation that’s been hard, we choose a small action to try, then talk about how it went. You leave with a written summary and a plan for the next 30 days.
Is the founding pilot paid?+
Yes. Applying is free. I’ll explain the price and what’s included before you decide whether to join.
Is this therapy?+
No. This is educational and experiential social practice—not diagnosis, treatment or crisis support.
Online or in person?+
Online, in person in Bali, or elsewhere by arrangement when practical.
What happens after I apply?+
I read your answers and contact you on WhatsApp. If I think I can help, we’ll arrange a conversation about working together. If you need a different kind of support, I’ll tell you.