IBBY / SOCIAL WELLNESS LAB

SOMETHING FEELS OFF · YOU CAN’T EXPLAIN WHY

YOUR ENERGY
IS CURRENCY.
WHAT IS
COSTING YOU?

You are doing a lot—but the harder you try to belong, perform or keep everyone happy, the less you feel like yourself.

I help you see what is draining your energy, understand the pattern, and choose what actually belongs in your next chapter.

Ibby during an earlier chapter of his life
BEFORE · ADAPTING TO BELONG
Ibby grounded by the coast in Indonesia
NOW · CHOOSING THE RIGHT ROOMS
ROOMSENERGYDECISIONSYOUR NEXT CHAPTER

[ DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR? ]

YOU MISS FEELING
LIKE YOURSELF.

Some days, it’s hard to explain what feels off. Open whichever sounds like you.

01“I’M TIRED, EVEN WHEN I HAVEN’T DONE MUCH.”+

Messages, small worries and things you didn’t want to say yes to leave you drained.

02“I DON’T FEEL LIKE MYSELF LATELY.”+

You’re getting through the day, but you miss your excitement, confidence and ease.

03“I GIVE A LOT. I LEAVE FEELING EMPTY.”+

You show up for everyone. You wish someone would show up for you, too.

04“I KEEP COMPARING MYSELF TO EVERYONE ELSE.”+

Someone always seems further ahead. You forget what you wanted before you started looking at their life.

05“I SECOND-GUESS EVEN THE SMALL DECISIONS.”+

You ask everyone what they think, then struggle to hear what you think.

06“I KEEP REACTING TO THINGS NOBODY ACTUALLY SAID.”+

A late reply, a different tone, an unclear look—you interpret the silence, then your mind treats the interpretation like proof. It follows you into your sleep, your body and the relationship.

[ WHAT YOU WANT BACK ]

CALM. ALIVE.
COMFORTABLE BEING YOU.

Energy for your life. Peace with yourself. People you can relax around.

TRUST YOURSELF WHEN LIFE GETS HARD.

When things get hard, you want to know you can count on yourself. Ask for support. Make a choice. Take the next step.

Less energy spent proving yourself or comparing your life to someone else’s. More energy for your growth, your peace and the people who meet you with the same care.

That’s the magnetism I mean: being yourself, showing up with warmth, and letting people get to know the real you.

Ibby sitting calmly above the coast in Indonesia
PEACE IS PART OF THE PRACTICE

[ THE SIX-STEP FRAMEWORK ]

FROM MENTAL NOISE
TO YOUR OWN CLARITY.

This is not a formula for becoming someone else. It is a practical way to hear yourself again.

01NOTICE WHAT FEELS OFF+

We slow the week down and look at the moments, rooms and relationships that change your energy.

02SEPARATE THE FACT FROM THE STORY+

What was clearly communicated? What did you observe? What did your mind add? We stop an interpretation from becoming an untested truth.

03NAME WHAT YOU ACTUALLY FEEL+

We find the fear underneath the story—rejection, failure, invisibility, losing the person, or not being enough—without pretending it is evidence.

04REBUILD SELF-TRUST+

Separate your own voice from pressure, fear and other people’s expectations so your choices feel like yours again.

05TRY SOMETHING SMALL+

One honest conversation. One boundary. One new room. One action clear enough to test in real life.

06KEEP WHAT HELPS+

We turn what worked into a simple reference point you can use when life becomes busy again.

[ TWO WAYS TO WORK TOGETHER ]

SEE CLEARLY.
THEN CHOOSE.

START WHERE YOU ARE.

Choose one focused session when you need clarity now, or three weeks of support when you want someone beside you while you put that clarity into practice.

01ONE SESSION

THE 90-MINUTE
CLARITY SESSION

Enough space to understand what is happening, where your energy is going, and what your next move could be.

  • One private 90-minute conversation
  • A clear map of the situation and its real cost
  • The patterns, people or decisions keeping you stuck
  • A focused next step you can act on immediately

THIS CAN HELP WHENYour mind feels crowded, something feels off, a relationship or opportunity is confusing you, or you need honest clarity before deciding what comes next.

APPLY FOR 90 MINUTES

[ SWIPE THROUGH THE THREE WEEKS → ]

WEEK 01Ibby in a quiet reflective moment

NOTICE WHAT DRAINS YOU

We talk through your days: what takes your energy, what helps you feel at ease, and what you want more of.

WEEK 02Ibby practising connection through an honest conversation

TRY SOMETHING SMALL

One small change each week, chosen together. It could be saying no, making time for yourself, or having an honest conversation.

WEEK 03Ibby relaxed and smiling after choosing what supports him

KEEP WHAT HELPS

See what leaves you calmer, more energised and more like yourself. We’ll build a simple plan you can keep using.

[ WHAT YOU LEAVE WITH ]

KNOW WHAT
TO TRY NEXT.

  • A written summary of who and what leaves you feeling drained—or at ease.
  • One small action to practise each week.
  • Ways to protect your time, say what you need and make choices you trust.
  • A simple plan for the next 30 days.

Both options are paid. Applying is free. You will see the investment and what is included before deciding. Sessions can be online, in Bali, or elsewhere by arrangement.

Ibby walking alone along a beach in Indonesia
IBBY · INDONESIA · STARTING AGAIN

[ ABOUT ME / WHY ME ]

I DIDN’T BUILD THIS
FROM A PERFECT LIFE.

I built it through twelve years of leaving, adapting, getting lost, and learning how to return to myself.

Madagascar → France → Canada → Australia → China → Indonesia

12 YEARSBuilding a life across France, Canada, Australia and Indonesia.
REAL PRESSUREFamily sacrifice, money struggles, wrong rooms, burnout and starting again.
REAL-WORLD PRACTICEHospitality, movement and thousands of conversations across cultures.
“I know how easy it is to lose yourself trying to be accepted, seen, successful—or trying to make something work without ever checking what is actually true.”

[ HOW I GOT HERE ]

MY LIFE DIDN’T MOVE
IN A STRAIGHT LINE.

Choose a marker. Open the parts that speak to where you are now.

AN ISLAND, A VILLAGE, A FAMILYLove, discipline and feelings we did not know how to name.Young Ibby before leaving home+

I grew up in Madagascar—mostly Antananarivo, with deep village roots in Andapa through my grandparents.

  • My grandmother taught me manners, flavour and how food brings people together.
  • My family was loving, protective and strict.
  • There was pressure to succeed, but little space for emotional conversation.
THE GOLD, THE €1,000 AND THE PROMISEI left home carrying more pressure than luggage.Young Ibby at the beginning of his life abroad+

In 2014, my mother sold most of her gold and my grandfather added €1,000 so I could study in France.

  • The money represented years of sacrifice and belief.
  • I felt responsible for changing my family’s future.
  • I had the opportunity—but no idea how to build a life that felt like mine.
FREEDOM DIDN’T FEEL LIKE FREEDOMI became whatever the room seemed to need.Ibby adapting during his early years in France+

I thought fitting in would make the new country feel like home. Instead, I slowly edited myself out.

  • The funny one. The useful one. The person who always said yes.
  • I cooked for people who did not always show up.
  • From the outside I was adapting; inside I was isolating, overeating and disappearing.
THE NOKIA 3310 AND THE FIRST RUNMy body moved before my confidence did.Ibby during his first physical rebuilding chapter+

At my aunt’s home, I was watching screens, eating and hiding from my own life. My phone died. My uncle told me to move.

  • The next day, I ran before I felt ready.
  • Movement interrupted the isolation.
  • It became self-respect long before it became fitness.
€150 LEFT. AN €80 BIKE. CANADA.They laughed because I could barely afford tomorrow.Ibby reflecting on the journey that changed his future+

An English teacher encouraged me to take an exchange opportunity in Canada. People said it was impossible while I was already broke.

  • I spent €80 of my last €150 on a delivery bicycle.
  • Uber and Deliveroo gave me a way to earn and save.
  • The bike became proof that action can create the clarity you are waiting for.
WHEN EVERYONE DISAPPEAREDThree years of friendships—and nobody I could call.Ibby alone during a difficult chapter between countries+

After Canada, I fell into the wrong environment and reached a point where I had to call my father and admit that I was not okay.

  • The people I had spent three years building a life around were not there.
  • An uncle gave me around fifteen days; an aunt gave me €150.
  • I slept in airports and train stations, and used the gym to shower.
  • On a bench with my last €10, a stranger kept asking, “What happened to you?”—then offered a room, food, time and help.
MORE MONEY THAN I HAD IMAGINEDOpportunity solved the numbers—not the emptiness.Ibby after rebuilding strength and discipline+

Australia gave me the capacity to earn more than I had ever imagined through hospitality, construction and mining.

  • I learned to work, survive and rebuild from nothing.
  • Money created options, but it did not automatically create peace or belonging.
  • The wrong rooms still cost me time, energy, opportunity—and almost my future.
YOUR ENVIRONMENT TEACHES YOU WHAT IS POSSIBLETwelve years of watching culture shape people.Ibby walking on a beach in Indonesia+

Moving through Europe, Canada, Australia, China, Southeast Asia and Indonesia showed me that people can live in completely different realities.

  • One culture can teach you to chase security; another can teach you to value time.
  • Some environments open relationships and opportunity. Others make fear feel normal.
  • Many “personal” blockages are beliefs absorbed from family, culture and the rooms around us.
THE ROOM BECOMES YOUR INNER VOICEWhat surrounds you quietly becomes what you believe.People inside an active Social Wellness Lab environment+

I began noticing how the same human need can look completely different depending on where someone was raised.

  • Relationship beliefs: who you are allowed to love, trust or become.
  • Money beliefs: what feels safe, greedy, impossible or “not for people like us.”
  • Opportunity beliefs: whether you explore, stay small, ask—or wait for permission.
  • Sometimes culture protects us. Sometimes it blocks us from seeking something more meaningful.
WHEN DISTANCE STOPPED PROTECTING MEI could not control the outcome. I could choose how I entered the room.Ibby reconnecting with his father after twelve years+

The first time my mother faced brain-tumor surgery, we were fighting and I stayed away. When she later needed another operation, I chose differently.

  • I took the ticket and saw my father after twelve years.
  • I stayed beside my mother, cooked for her and returned some of the care she had given me.
  • Attention, food, time and care became my definition of presence.
THE LIFE I WANTED CHANGEDPeace became more valuable than proving I had succeeded.Ibby grounded by the coast in Indonesia+

I once chased the body, the money, the watch, the freedom and the proof that I had made it.

  • Now wealth also means health, movement, nature and music.
  • It means time, simple food and conversations that do not drain me.
  • It means being calm enough to enjoy the life I worked so hard to create.
THE EXPERIMENT BECAME THE WORKMy life became a living study of people, rooms and energy.Ibby present in a Social Wellness Lab room+

Hospitality taught me to notice. Sales taught me that people move when they feel understood. Solitude taught me to listen.

  • I began testing better questions in cafés, gyms, dinners and handwritten notes.
  • I watched what helps people feel safe enough to be honest.
  • That real-world experiment became Social Wellness Lab.

[ THE LAB IN PRACTICE ]

BETTER QUESTIONS.
REAL PEOPLE.

I test this work in cafés, dinners and everyday rooms—watching what helps people feel safe enough to speak honestly.

Ibby passing a handwritten napkin to a staff member during a real-world connection experiment
01 · PASS THE QUESTION
Ibby introducing the napkin experiment in a café
02 · ASK SOMETHING REAL
Ibby approaching strangers and beginning a warm conversation
03 · ENTER THE ROOM
Ibby sharing what presence and care mean in everyday life
04 · SHARE WHAT WE LEARN
A handwritten napkin about the fear of meeting someone new
FEAR · MADE VISIBLE
A handwritten napkin asking who am I becoming
IDENTITY · QUESTIONED
A handwritten note about listening and paying things forward
LISTENING · PRACTISED
A table covered in words gathered during a Social Wellness Lab exercise
THE ROOM · SPEAKING BACK

[ EARLY COMMUNITY RESPONSE ]

WHAT PEOPLE
HAVE FELT.

These messages come from people in the community. They are not results from the three-week pilot.

CONNECTION

“You helped me overcome my fear of new connections.”

PRESENCE

“Your presence means so much. Simply being there changes something in me and others.”

Ibby beginning a real conversation during a Social Wellness Lab field experiment

[ WORK WITH ME · APPLICATION ]

YOU DO NOT NEED
TO KEEP CARRYING
THIS ALONE.

Tell me what’s been hard lately and what you’d like to change. I’ll read your answers and let you know whether I can help.

  • Choose the 90-minute session or the three-week pilot.
  • No payment when you apply.
  • If I’m not the right person to help, I’ll say so.
START THE AUDIT

Your answers are stored in Typeform. I use them to understand what you need and contact you on WhatsApp about your application.

Educational and experiential social practice · not therapy or crisis support

[ QUICK ANSWERS ]

BEFORE
YOU APPLY.

Who is this work for?+

People who feel drained, give too much, compare themselves to others or second-guess their choices—and want to feel calmer, more energised and more like themselves.

What happens in the 90-minute session?+

We focus on one situation, identify what is costing you energy, separate the real issue from the mental noise, and leave you with a clear next step.

What happens during the three weeks?+

We meet privately once a week. You bring a situation that’s been hard, we choose a small action to try, then talk about how it went. You leave with a written summary and a plan for the next 30 days.

Are both options paid?+

Yes. Applying is free. You will see the investment and what is included before deciding.

Is this therapy?+

No. This is educational and experiential social practice—not diagnosis, treatment or crisis support.

Online or in person?+

Online, in person in Bali, or elsewhere by arrangement when practical.

What happens after I apply?+

I read your answers and contact you on WhatsApp. If I think I can help, we’ll arrange a conversation about working together. If you need a different kind of support, I’ll tell you.

START THE AUDIT